Have you ever had a moment where an idea as come into your mind, you don’t know where it has come from but it just appears and you think…. Yeah that sounds like a good idea!!
But… you have no idea how to bring it to life, you have no idea who to turn to or where to start…
I have had this very thing happen to me, I am a Doula and I want to support people at end of life, It came to me that I wanted to somehow merge the two together and help parents who were in the horrific situation of losing their baby…. doesn’t sound like a walk in the park, does it? But… it kept calling me and every time I thought about it, it fired me up and made me want to move forward somehow in this field.
I believe that when you have an idea and it gets you all energised and fired up then it’s definitely worth looking at in more detail. Your body is telling you that this feels right, that this feels good, that this feels like where you belong.
We all have fear which stands for FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL
Your brain is designed to keep you safe, to keep you in the familiar, to stay where it knows but this is a very ancient and primitive part of your brain that is functioning and it has conflict with your more intellectual modern brain. Can you imagine that you are at the end of your life, do you wish that you had tried something a bit different or challenged yourself a little more? If the answer is No then that’s totally fine, it’s your life and your choice. I was once told that it’s better to regret something that you did do than something that you didn’t do and I now question…. What do I WANT?
What I decided to do was break it down and firstly look at who I knew in the field and places I wanted to approach and made a plan to take a small action step each day or each week towards my goals I am now volunteering for Cruse which is a charity for bereaved people and I have got back in touch with Funeral people that I knew from before. I feel scared and nervous and imposter syndrome is kicking me in the butt… but I am still moving forward anyway, despite all of that. I don’t know how it will go or how it will turn out or even if I will succeed. What I do know is that I want to help and support parents and families through their bereavements. This is a work in progress, as is life. We can’t control our future’s, we don’t know what’s going to happen, all we can do is make a rough plan, jump on the surfboard and then ride the waves. If you make a decision and take an action and it doesn’t turn out the way you had planned, what did you learn from it? We learn more from our mistakes than from our successes. Getting back up and trying again is what makes us stronger rather than giving up and the first bump in the road. Surround yourself with your champions, the ones who have your back and can pop you back on that surfboard and ride along side you. If that is a mentor, a tutor a family member or friend, get your Tribe together as there will be days where you feel like stopping, jumping off the surfboard and getting on the beach to sunbathe… be kind and compassionate with yourself, take a breath and then carry on when you are ready…
If you don’t try then you will never know and if I end up sitting with you on your deathbed, know that I will support you with what has been and what is to come.
If you feel you need support from Cruse, their helpline is 0808 808 1677 or helpline@cruse.org.uk
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